Distractions.... Is being "indistractionable the most important skill for 21st Century?

As you know, I love to read all the latest information on how we can teach our kids ( and ourselves) to thrive, so I spend time reading articles and culling them for you, so you don’t have to. I Iike pulling little gems out that you can use as a parent and as an evolving human.

Nir Eyal , a Stanford psychologist states that “Becoming indistractable is the most important skill for the 21st century". Yes, distractions of the world these days are all consuming. Our kids (and us) have around 34 Gigabytes of information hurled at us every day - supposedly enough to overload the typical laptop within a week! No wonder we can’t get anything done - and think of what that is like for a kid!

Professor Eyal states that “in the future, there will be two kinds of people in the world: Those who let their attention and lives be controlled and coerced by others and those who proudly call themselves “indistractable.”” Here is how he suggest that you put your child in charge of their attention:

  • Allow your child to control their own time. First, show them how they only have a finite amount of time each day and teach them how to choose how to spend it. If they spend too much somewhere, like video games, they have to take it away from somewhere else… YOU also get to choose how to spend your time - what is your #1 priority - your one thing? Then schedule the rest from there. Everything is not a priority. And we can’t afford to waste time, energy, and attention on things that are not serving us.

  • There are super smart people out there who study and work hard to get our attention. They want us to play their games, watch their programming, listen to them - all for us to spend our money on their products and services. Start noticing how someone might want you to spend your time. Notice how they want you to spend your money. Be aware.

  • Let your kids have the power to think things through and find the amount of time they need/want to spend on what is needed and what is wanted. You are there to ask the right questions, not to dictate to them how they should do it. This brings them autonomy. Bonus: it also takes the blame off of you if, heck, when … they slip up.

  • How are they going to follow through and make their pre-determined time commitment happen? Gadgets and gizmos galore here! You might have used a kitchen timer when you were a kid, they are probably using Alexa. Help them set the commitment for success. Bonus: it also takes the blame off of you if, heck, when … yep, you know it, they slip up.

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While I agree wholeheartedly that we need to learn how to be indistractable, I have to disagree that it is the most important skill for your young ones going forward. In my opinion, that would be:

Knowing how you mind works and how to be in control of your thoughts and emotions.

Let me know what you think. Do you see an opportunity to use what Professor Eyal suggests with your kids? Do you notice the information overload with you? Are you working toward a more indistractable, more controlled mind?


rebecca kahn